The Illogical, Dangerous, and Disempowering Jargon of the Depression Industry.

Part 2 of 3

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The Illogical, Dangerous, and Disempowering Jargon of the Depression Industry.

Part 2 of 3

24-28 Minute Read

This is Part 2 of 3 in the Article Series on the Illogical, Dangerous, and Disempowering jargon of the Depression Industry.

 

Part 1 introduced the two sources of the disempowering jargon of depression (the combination of science and statistics along with the viewpoint of considering mental and emotional distress a “health” issue). It also introduced the two categories of problematic jargon: 1) “normalcy-related terms” and 2) health-related terms.

 

Probably one of the most important points of all (and also a reoccurring theme on this site) is the main reason why considering the jargon is so important.  Jargon is important because words do not describe your reality, they create your reality. Said differently, the words you use to describe your mental and/or emotional distress have a huge impact on the journey to conquer that distress once and for all.

 

Part 1 also went through “The Bobby Exercise” to show just how illogical the jargon of “normalcy-related terms” can be. This exercise highlighted how it is not logical, nor fair, nor arguably even moral to compare those that have been through abuse and trauma to those that have not been through any abuse or trauma to determine “normal” and “orderly” behavior.

 

Doing this is like using data bananas to determine the normal shape of an apple. It just does not make sense.

 

Part 1 ended with some information on those that have not been through mental and/or emotional abuse. It briefly touched on how the questions of, “What is enough to be considered ‘abuse’?” and, “What is enough to be considered ‘traumatic’?” are common questions to consider on this topic. Those questions are beyond the scope of this article series. However, Part 1 does have some links and brief info near the end of it if you want to research that topic further.

 

Part 2 picks up here and returns to considering those that have not experienced trauma and/or abuse during their childhood. It would be worth reading The Bobby Exercise from Part 1 if you have not read it yet.

 

 

Enjoy Part 2 and the golden opportunities it highlights below.

Beginning of Part 2

What about those not named Bobby?

Let’s return to the topic of, “What about those that did not go through what Bobby went through, and those that did not experience trauma and/or abuse?” and approach it from a different angle than, “What actually is abuse and/or trauma?”(Part 1 touches on this angle).

 

When it comes to depression, specifically, there are two other common angles that look at the question of, “What about those that did not go through abuse?”.

 

Understanding these two angles shows even further how illogical it is to use the word “disorder” and any other normalcy-related terms to describe depression.

 

"Not Bobby" Angle #1

What about those not named Bobby?

Let’s return to the topic of, “What about those that did not go through what Bobby went through, and those that did not experience trauma and/or abuse?” and approach it from a different angle than, “What actually is abuse and/or trauma?”(Part 1 touches on this angle).

 

When it comes to depression, specifically, there are two other common angles that look at the question of, “What about those that did not go through abuse?”.

 

Understanding these two angles shows even further how illogical it is to use the word “disorder” and any other normalcy-related terms to describe depression.

 

“Not Bobby” Angle #1:

The first angle many people commonly contemplate goes something like this:

 

Well, this behavior (aka “symptoms”) is not normal relative to how the person normally feels. Therefore, it is disorderly and thus a “disorder”.”

 

If that is what you are thinking, I challenge you to dig deeper.

 

Did the person just lose a relative?

Did the person just have a heartbreak?

Did something go wrong at work?

Did they just get some negative news about their health?

Did a close friend just move out of town or get occupied in a relationship?

Did something change in any of these 12 Focus Areas or 15 Life Roles?

 

That last question is basically a catch-all.

 

Take a look at the lists in the slides below. Twist your phone and zoom in, etc. if needed. These are the 12 main Focus Areas and 15 Life Roles each and every human being can be involved in to some extent.

 

  • The first slide provides the 12 main Life Focus Areas. In the self-development world, many people just use the 5 Focus Areas instead of 12. However, I think that is too simplistic. Human beings are more complex than that (IE: your relationship with your mentors is much different than your relationship with your intimate partner). This is why the full list of 12 is included.
  • The second slide provides some commentary as to what makes something a Focus Area and how to view the Focus Areas.
  • The third slide shows how the 15 Life Roles correlate to the 12 Focus Areas (and 5 Focus Areas as well). The 15 Life Roles are roles we assume as human beings as a result of the 12 Focus Areas of our life (IE: these are “hats we automatically wear” as humans and functions we must perform in our life).
12 Focus Areas
12 Focus Areas Slide 2
15 Life Roles Slide 3

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Why Share these 27 things?

Life in today’s fast paced, demanding, tech-driven society where we will soon be competing with robots on a large scale for jobs is very, very complex, to say the least.

 

Given how complex life is today, what do you think the odds are that at least one of these 12 Focus Areas and/or our ability to perform the functions of the 15 Life Roles will go a little out of sync for just two-weeks during our lives?

 

What also must be considered is the heavy workload with limited breaks that many people typically take on in today’s society across the globe. In fact, Americans typically only get two weeks of paid vacation per year vs. 20-40+ for many other countries.

 

So not only is life demanding and complex, many hard-working people in the global, modern, corporate world that exists today get very little breaks to decompress and detach from the demands that life has on us. The limited amount of opportunities to disconnect from the consistent and complex demands of life (and reconnect to what really, truly matters) increases the odds that one of these 27 things will go out of sync at some point. Seeing as the “system” seems to stack the odds against us,  maybe it is completely “normal” and “orderly” to expect something to get out of alignment at some point?

 

The 27 Likely Causes

In short, if any one of these 27 items were affected adversely enough, it could cause a lot of mental and/or emotional distress, right? Thus, in many ways, these serve as 27 likely causes of depression.

 

It also must be highlighted that these can be viewed in a much more positive light too. These also are the 27 things in our life that we can focus on mastering as they all can bring a lot of joy into our life too. (We’ll save that “Life mastery” topic for another time).

 

Below is a summary if the main forms of mental and emotional distress that create the “symptoms” of depression as per the DSM-V. These were shared in Part 1.

 

If any single one of these 27 things got out of whack, what do you think the odds are that someone would experience:

 

1) Depressed mood

2) Markedly diminished interest or pleasure in activities

3) Significant weight and/or diet changes in either direction

4) Significant changes in sleeping patterns

5) Significant changes physical activity levels (sped up and/or slowed down)

6) Fatigue or loss of energy nearly every day

7) Feelings of worthlessness or excessive or inappropriate

8) Diminished ability to think clearly

9) Recurrent thoughts of death

 

What if?

For example, what if your intimate relationship hit a bump in the road?

 

It is fair to assume that everyone reading (and writing) this knows that if our love life takes a negative twist, it can be especially draining and distressing.

 

What if for some reason your relationship with yourself started changing, and for some reason you became more critical of yourself?

 

Or, what if our finances took a sudden and/or prolonged turn for the worse? Balling on a budget gets old after a while.

 

What if a family member became ill, or if you had a falling out with a close friend or colleague?

 

What if you got injured and couldn’t enjoy your favorite hobby?

 

What if you had a big realization in your spiritual life that completely changed your reality?

 

All of these 12 Life Focus Areas and 15 Life Roles can indeed create distress, right?

 

And when one of those 27 things takes a turn for the worse, all nine of those “symptoms” are very likely to be exhibited, correct?

 

In other words, if any of these 27 things took a significant negative turn, it would be “normal” and “orderly” to exhibit these “symptoms” of this “disorder”.

 

 

And let alone if these behaviors are exhibited for a period of just two weeks. . .

 

Does it even make sense to call it a “mental illness” when distress is caused by negative changes in these 27 things?

 

Side Note:

If you look deep enough into each of these 27 things, I bet at least one of them will prove to be the root cause of your distress. There is also a reason why “relationship with yourself” was put at #1 in the 12 Focus Areas. I know this from personal experience.

 

One of the most common questions I get when people ask me about my experience with depression is, “What caused your depression?”.

 

For me, personally (and many of the stories I have read and clients I have guided), it was my relationship with myself. More specifically, I was INCREDIBLY judgmental, and harsh, and used negative labels and toxic self-criticism very, very frequently. Not only was I incredibly harsh on myself, I was incredibly harsh and critical of others… and at levels much worse than I ever imagined until I finally realized what I was doing.

 

The day I realized these behaviors and related beliefs were holding me back was the exact same day I realized the true cause of my depression. That was the day I said, “THAT is it!! THAT is what is causing my depression!!” (having a moment like that is one of the main goals of this site- see #3). That was also the same day I knew I could get off of antidepressants. I knew in that exact moment that I had found the source and that I didn’t need them at all (I likely never needed them in the first place. I was only on them for 6 months, and 5 of those were the “weaning off phase” to “safely” get off of the drug without any dangerous withdrawal symptoms).

 

The process I used to create a moment like "THAT" is outlined in ConquerMyDepresionToday.com's free eBook.

 

Up until I created a moment like "THAT", I had *no* clue what was causing my pain. This is largely because these behaviors of criticism and the related beliefs were stored in my unconscious mind. In other words, I was not consciously aware of the cause of my mental and emotional distress. This is very, very common for many people. Until you learn how to access certain parts of your unconscious mind, you very likely will not find the root cause of your distress and despair.

 

The conscious mind and unconscious mind is beyond the scope of this article. This article gives a little hint of what to look for.

 

For now just realize that if you dig deep enough into these 27 things, I am sure you will find the root cause. This is especially true for the relationship with yourself.

 

Again, there is a reason why this was put as #1.

 

If you find yourself being harsh, critical, angry, sad, and/or disappointed with yourself- start here. No matter what your source is, you definitely will have to learn how to be warm, kind, caring, gentle, compassionate, and loving to yourself. Without this, you will not find the cause of your distress. Doing this and improving the amount of love, warmth, and compassion you feel for yourself will also go a long, LONG way in the warmth and joy you find in your relationships with others (romantic, family, mentors, and friends). If you can’t take care of yourself and love yourself properly, you cannot love others properly either.

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Summary of Angle #1:

Again, I encourage you to dig deeper. I am certain that if you dig deep enough, you will find a reason why you or anyone else is distressed. A great starting point is to review the 12 Life Focus Areas and 15 Life Roles. Keep going until you find an answer, even if the answer is beyond these 27 likely sources.

 

In short, if you find out some distressing news regarding your love life, relationships, physical health, hobbies, finances, and/or career, any of the “symptoms” of “depression” outlined by the DSM-V would clearly be considered normal and orderly to experience.

 

This means it is very likely illogical to call any of these normal and orderly behaviors a “disorder”

“Not Bobby” Angle #2

The second angle of, “What if we didn’t experience any trauma and/or abuse?” is a fun one to consider too.

 

This angle goes something like this:

 

“Well, those 12 Life Focus Areas and 15 Life Roles are interesting, but nothing really has taken a turn for the worse in my life. My job is good. My intimate relationship is good. My friends are good. Everything is okay in my life and it has been for some time, but I’m still feeling lots of tiredness, disinterest, lack of will power and other “symptoms” of depression. Something must be “wrong” and disorderly.”

 

If someone’s entire life is really, truly “okay” and nothing has really changed in their lives recently, and they’re still experiencing the “symptoms” of depression, chances are that is EXACTLY why those symptoms are occurring.

 

Why is that?

 

Well, if everything is “okay to good” and nothing is changing, guess what is very likely happening…?

 

Go ahead, make a guess.

 

Why would “nothing changing” cause some form of mental and/or emotional distress?

 

Why would everything being “okay to good” cause some form of mental and/or emotional distress?

 

Here are two reasons why it would cause distress.

 

Reason #1:

If “nothing is changing” and everything is going along consistently, guess what happens to most human beings?

 

They get bored.

 

Think about watching the same episode of the same TV show in the same position on the same couch with the same snack over and over and over and over again. Eventually you will get bored out of your mind and experience some form of mental and/or emotional distress, right?

 

We humans all need some sort of variety and surprise. It is a part of our default programming as human beings- we all not just want, but we need to see things change to some degree or another in our lives.

 

The way this “consistent life” eventually creates distress in most people’s lives is they keep on living the same daily routine, waking up to the same alarm clock, drinking the same coffee, driving the same route to work, eating the same lunches at the same spot with the same colleagues, going on the same amount of annual vacations, watching the same big game, and doing the same social events only to wake up 5-10-15+ years later and realize they have been doing the same thing over and over and over again for a significant portion of their life with minimal growth or progress.

 

Having that type of realization can be quite distressing, to say the least, especially the very first time you realize that you have become victim to a “consistent life” with minimal progress and growth. (Awareness of this problem also is the gateway to changing and conquering the problem… we’ll save that awareness for another time though).

 

Reason #2:

All of the 12 Life Focus Areas and 15 Life Roles could be ranked on a scale of 1-10. In fact, it’s a really good exercise to conduct. If you’re feeling up for it, pull out a piece of paper and rank all 27 areas for yourself. If one area is pretty low, chances are that area of your life may be causing you some degree distress (maybe a little, a lot or a TON of distress).

 

As great as that exercise is, let’s get back to the task at hand and return to the second reason why “everything is okay in my life, and it has been for some time” eventually leads to distress.

 

Imagine if someone’s life was full of a bunch of 6.0 out of 10.0’s across all the Life Focus Areas and all the Life Roles. They have an okay to good job and finances, okay to good social life, okay to good intimate relationship, okay to good physical health. . .

 

And imagine that they have lived a life of 6.0’s or lower for a pretty good amount of time.

 

Guess what happens in this situation?

 

Besides lying to themselves and saying they have an 8.0+ out of 10.0 when it’s actually a 3.0 or 4.0, what also is incredibly common for us humans to do is that eventually some part of us gets a vision or scent of something else- something better than okay or good. Something, much, much better than a 6.0.

 

If it goes on long enough, eventually living a restricted and suppressed life “full of okay’s” across the board stares you straight in the face, and you realize that you have been settling. The instant that realization happens, there is a shift in that person’s mentality and mindset, to say the least.

 

Very similar to the realization that nothing has changed in the past 5, 10, 15+ years, the initial realization that you have been living a life full of 6.0’s or lower can be pretty distressing.

 

This Second Angle is a Golden Opportunity

Gold bars

 

People that catch themselves 1) living a life full of consistency for a prolonged period of time and/or 2) living a life full of okay’s or lower for a prolonged period of time that eventually start experiencing the symptoms of depression are actually experiencing a golden opportunity.

 

Why is this such a great opportunity?

 

That “part of you” that creates the distress caused by catching your routines or catching your life full of 6.0’s (or catching both) is the deepest part of your human psyche.

 

When that part of you speaks up, you MUST listen, or you will experience significant amounts of distress- guaranteed.

 

Have you ever done something that you knew just wasn’t right; or just wasn’t really, truly you and eventually regretted it?

 

Well, that part that is “really, truly you” is the exact same part of you that is reaching out to you in the form of mental and/or emotional distress (IE: the symptoms of depression) when you’ve fallen asleep to life’s routines OR settled for a life full of okay’s (or both).

 

Again, this is the “deepest part of you”. Some people will say this is your soul or spirit that is crying out. Some prefer to just call it the deepest part of you and leave it at that. Call it what you want, but whenever you get in touch with that part of you it is a GOLDEN opportunity. That is because this creates an opportunity to learn more about who you really, truly are as a person, deep, deep down inside.

 

There is nothing like being 100% comfortable in your own skin. The Hawaiians have a great word for this called “pono”.  They define pono as “unwavering congruency in who you are as a person”.

 

The Hawaiians also believe that if you “get off the path” of living a life of “pono”, you will not be at peace. In other words, if you live a life that is not completely congruent with the person you are deep down inside, eventually you will experience some form of distress.

 

That is why distress in this situation is invaluable- it is your spirit or soul telling you that, “There is more! You are meant for more! Do not settle! Dig deeper! Change things! Make it happen and you will find a deeper peace than you presently can even contemplate!”.

 

Unfortunately, sometimes this message is transmitted in the form of distress.

 

For those that interpret this message properly and listen to this deeper voice, a golden opportunity exists to learn invaluable lessons about yourself.

 

So. . . Maybe

So. . .

 

Maybe the mental and/or emotional distress someone is presently facing is a consequence of the “distress” of persistent low levels of joy, excitement, enthusiasm, and lack of fulfillment (IE: persistent levels of “okay” and/or 6.0 or lower).

 

Maybe it’s the culmination of years and years and years of pushing towards everything on your own, and having no one to really, truly confide in.

 

Maybe it’s a culmination of countless years of restricting yourself from fully expressing everything you really, truly are deep inside. . . Maybe they aren’t even consciously aware that they are being restricted and holding back too.

 

Maybe it is a whole bunch of 2.0-5.0’s of abuse and/or traumas stacked up over their entire life.

 

Again, maybe the distress they are experiencing now is something deep inside them (finally!) saying,

 

“THERE IS MORE!!!

THERE MUST BE MORE JOY IN LIFE THAN THIS!!!

FIND IT!!! CREATE IT!!! YOU DESERVE IT!!!”

 

Getting in touch with that deepest part inside of you is really, truly and invaluable opportunity.

 

For those that didn’t go through what Bobby went through and are still experiencing mental and/or emotional distress, it is guaranteed that if you dig deep enough you will see exactly how that mental and/or emotional distress is completely normal and orderly if viewed in the context of that human being’s life experiences up to that point.

 

 

The Heart of Why

Ultimately, that is the heart as to why “disorder” and any “normalcy-related terms” to describe this behavior that make up the “symptoms of depression” is illogical to call a “disorder”.

 

This is because:

It is guaranteed that if you dig deep enough into the life of any individual, it is extremely likely that all the “symptoms” of depression would be considered very normal and very orderly and very appropriate if viewed in context of their specific life experiences.

In fact, they may look abnormally strong if they made it this far.

 

Imagine if poor Bobby went all the way through Part D or E or F of the exercise, and still was standing on two feet. Maybe we should be modeling his abnormal levels of resiliency and courage instead.

 

Or if you look at someone’s life and nothing has changed, and/or everything is okay to good (IE: 6.0 or less), it makes complete sense that eventually that living a life of settling for much less than you are capable of or deserve will eventually catch up with them in the form of mental and/or emotional distress.

 

Again,

 

All human behavior, including mental and emotional distress, must be viewed in context of the life experiences they went through. This is true regardless of their genetic background.

 

That last sentence can open a hole can of worms. It is worth touching on, but I am not going to detail the entire nature vs. nurture debate in this article. A great way to see how this debate affects depression, specifically, is to read this other article on CMDT.com. For now, the previously emphasized statement is simply supported by this simple logic:

 

A person who grows up under a bridge is going to have a much, much different set of life experiences than someone who grows up in the house of a billionaire. This is true regardless of their genetic background.

Side Note about Illogic within the Depression Industry

 

There is one final topic that must be shared when discussion the “lack of logic” in the depression industry. To share this final topic, consider these two Facts:

  • The DSM requires only two weeks of “symptoms” in order to meet the criteria for a Major Depressive Disorder.
  • It is also commonly suggested that the earliest time frame anyone should come off antidepressants is +/- 6 months.

 

So only two weeks of symptoms (disinterest, low will-power, disrupted sleeping and/or eating patterns, fatigue, etc.- many of which are very, very common in life) can get you on a drug with many well-known dangerous side effects for a minimum of about six months.

 

Does that make sense?

 

What adds another wrinkle to this situation is the Fact that multiple sources have emerged saying that it is not the chemicals of the antidepressants that causes people to feel better, but the placebo effect.

 

So not only does it only take two weeks to get on a drug you must take for at least six months- that drug may not actually work either. . .

 

Does that make sense?

 

Guess what?

 

It gets even better. . .

 

There is one last set of Facts that creates another interesting thing to ponder in this illogical situation:

 

The landscape of titles in the Mental “Health” Industry can be complex and confusing, to say the least (this guide may help). Just know that everyone who practices “psychotherapy” (aka: “therapy”, and therefore is a “therapist” in one context) cannot write prescriptions. “Psychiatrists” are Medical Doctors (aka: MD’s). Being a Medical Doctor means they can write prescriptions.

 

What is interesting is the Fact that the largest accreditation organization in the U.S. (IE: the organization that approves the curriculum for each university’s psychology programs) is the American Psychological Association (“APA #1” if you will). This effectively means that APA#1 is the organization that determines what must be taught in the education system here in the U.S.

 

However, the DSM (IE: the document that determines the criteria for “disorders”, and having a disorder is a requirement to receive medication) is created by a different organization, which is called the American Psychiatric Association (“APA #2”).

 

I am not sure why these two systemically important activities are split between two different organizations. Let’s save that for another day. The important thing to realize is that APA #2 basically consists of M.D.’s, and these are the only ones in the industry that can write prescriptions.

 

This makes it interesting to contemplate what types of influence$ may exist on the main manual used to diagnose “disorders” in the industry.

 

Just some interesting tidbits about the industry.

 

I love a good conspiracy theory.

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The Jargon of the Depression Industry is Dangerous

Self-Esteem and Self-Worth vs. Self-Confidence

The danger of using the terms “disorder”, “dysfunction”, “abnormal” and/or any other jargon that is inherently tied to “normalcy” is much quicker to explain.

 

First, seeing as these three terms (self-esteem, self-worth, and self-confidence) often are misunderstood and misused, it is important ensure that these three terms are clearly understood.

 

One thing that many people have in common when they are experiencing mental and/or emotional distress is they start to have concerns over their self-worth (aka: self-esteem) and/or their self-confidence (these are also highly correlated to the first Life Focus Area- "Your relationship with yourself").

 

“Worth” and “esteem” are words that inherently have to do with the belief of “value” of some sort. IE: People believe, “That item is worth a lot of money.” or they believe, “That item or person is held in high regard (aka: ‘high esteem’)”. Thus, self-esteem and self-worth are synonymous and refer to exactly the same thing.

 

Confidence, on the other hand, has to do with belief in your abilities. IE: “confidence” is when you believe you are able to accomplish and/or do something. It helps to remember the “C” in confidence is for “capable” and “capability” and “capabilities”.

 

Often times people have both low self-worth and low self-confidence. Sometimes it’s just one.

 

For example, it is entirely possible to have low self-worth (IE: it is possible to think that you, personally don’t matter much, are not “valuable”, are not worth much, and/or are not held in high “esteem” by the world) while simultaneously being confident in your abilities to accomplish certain things.

 

That type of person would say, “I can do it! . .. but that doesn’t matter, because I don’t matter. I’m not valuable. I’m not worth it”.

 

And, of course people can have high self-worth, but not feel capable of doing anything (IE: low self-confidence). They would say, “I know I matter and I am valuable, but I am not capable of accomplishing anything!”.
See the difference?

 

See what is possible?

 

The Danger of this Jargon:

Now that these three terms are introduced, let’s get to why this “normalcy-related jargon” is dangerous.

 

It is safe to say that the majority of clients that build up the courage to see a mental “health” professional for depression have concerns about their self-worth (aka: self-esteem), self-confidence, or both.

 

This obviously is especially true for depression, where “worthlessness” is one of the most common “symptoms” that is outlined by many professionals.

 

To show how the jargon of the mental health industry is dangerous, let’s also return to Bobby.

 

Go ahead and put him through whatever intensity and/or frequency of trauma and/or abuse you want to.

 

Then ask yourself, “How likely is it that he’ll have high self-esteem and high self-confidence?”

 

Chances are after the hell(s) we’ve put poor Bobby through, he won’t be feeling too optimistic about himself, right?

 

Said differently, Bobby will very likely have some concerns about his self-worth (aka: self-esteem) and/or his self-confidence.

 

How much do you think it would help Bobby to say, “Hey Bobby, you know all that hell you went through? Yeah, well, it looks like the way you behave now is abnormal. It’s actually disorderly and dysfunctional compared to the majority of everyone else”.

 

This is what the traditional mental health professionals are effectively saying to Bobby when they give him the label of “disorder”. They’re essentially saying:

 

“The professionals have looked at how you are behaving, Bobby. Guess what we determined based on the best practices we have come up with after thousands of years of scientific analysis and statistical data regarding human behavior? Our research shows that you have a “disorder” and a “dysfunction”, Bobby. E-V-E-R-Y-O-N-E in the professional field agrees”.

 

THAT, is what mental “health” professionals do to poor Bobby when we throw any type of “disorder label” on top of him.

 

Is this really, truly the best thing that can be done for a person in Bobby’s situation?

 

It clearly is not. We’d be kicking Bobby while he’s down.

 

Telling poor Bobby, “You’re dysfunctional, disorderly, and/or abnormal…” is not going to do anything to build up his self-esteem, nor his self-confidence either, is it?

 

Kicking someone while they are down and vulnerable is a very, VERY dangerous thing to do.

 

Self-esteem and self-confidence are essential to overcoming challenges. By attacking the exact resources they need in order to improve, you are playing a dangerous game with that person’s mental and emotional wellbeing.

This is exactly why, regardless of the level of intensity or frequency of the hell a person has gone through; adding the label of “disorder” to someone not only doesn’t make sense, it also is dangerous.

End of Part 2

This concludes Part 2 of the Article Series. The third part is available below.

 

Teaser:

You’ll learn why “Health” was put in quotations throughout this article when referencing the Mental “Health” Industry. 

 

Please remember:

 

Words do not describe your reality, they create your reality. The more often you use disempowering language the less empowered you will feel. The more often you use empowering words, the more empowered and resilient you will feel.

 

Ultimately, the language you use to describe the mental and/or emotional distress you are feeling creates a certain reality for you. The reality you create can lead you to create an empowering reality (IE: “Your challenge can be conquered!”) or a disempowering reality (IE: “This is how you cope and manage with your challenge”, or “This will not go away.”).

 

Thus, doesn’t it make sense to avoid those that share information and perspectives that, “This is how you can cope and manage with your symptoms.”?

 

Isn’t it also Truly the best practice to find information and professionals that embrace the mindset and related jargon of, “This is how you can conquer depression once and for all.”?

 

Whether you use this site or someone, somewhere, or something else; please keep this mindset in the front of your mind.

 

Depression can be conquered.

 

You can do it.

 

Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.

 

Enjoy Part 3

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